Can You Buy Your Children's Affection With Expensive Gifts?
After I read this question, I had to vote and join in on the debate. I do not think, no, I change that...I KNOW you can not buy a child's affection with gifts. It does not matter how "rich" or how "poor" you are, they will still cr@p all over you. I have three children of my own and they know that money does not grow on trees. I know what it is like, to "not" grow up with the best of foods, clothes and places to live.
I try not to get my children into thinking, that "money" makes the world go around. Because it does not. I know I got picked on a lot, when I went to school. But, at the same time, I also had friends, that did not care about the way I looked. They liked me for me. Sure, kids at school may tease you about the way you are dressed, or how different your hair style is compared to theirs, but it should not really matter, because if you have parents that love you, than I think that is all that should matter.
If the kids at school do not like you for who you are, then that is really too bad for them, because what is on the inside, should be all that counts. Not the amount of money you do or do not have. It hurts me (as a parent), to know that a child going to school (or not), are always getting taunted and teased, because they are not as "rich" as everyone else is. It should not matter.
This is the honest way I see it. Okay. If you have the money, it is okay to go out and buy your child a treat or a gift. But, that does not mean, that you have to do it, just to get any kind of affection from your child. That would be just plain stupid (if you ask me). And I am being honest....if a person ever thinks that way, they should try to wake up and smell the coffee.
No, seriously, any parent that thinks, "Well, in order for my kids to love me, they have to get a gift first," are truly kidding themselves and need a good swift kick in the pants. I do not agree with parents spoiling their children either. That just makes everything worse in the end. Of course, that is the way I look at it.
Kids now-a-days, have to realize that money does not grow on trees and there are a lot of us, that probably let our children get away with murder, just to reward them for it in the end. Really. How much sense does that make?
Thank you for taking the time to let me join this debate and leaving my "two cents" worth. I appreciate it.
Copyright Cynthia Jones
June.10/2008
A debate question. I voted, "NO."
Can You Buy Your Children's Affection With Expensive Gifts?